Sandy's Say: Everywoman
...When did you stop stealing a peek at my cleavage and prefer me to cover up?...
There's wit, wisdom and the the soundest possible advice on how to maintain a loving relationship in Sandy James's words.
Every man should read this column. And the many women who also read it will smile and nod as they associate themselves with every question
I have heard it said that when it comes to the breakdown of a relationship the first clue that a man has about it is often when the front door slams.
Well, gentlemen, after having lunch with three of my female friends who are in the midst of marriage collapses, I have felt compelled to simplify the matter and condense the variously accumulated reasons into one, easy to understand verse. It would seem to me that the adage, “It’s the little things that count” might just be a truism. Even if, like me, you consider yourselves happily ensconced with your partner, it can do us no harm to bear these thoughts in mind.
I write this, not about myself, but for Everywoman - and for those men who care enough to read it.
When---
--- did you stop enquiring what I think and what my hopes and plans for the future are?
--- did we stop sharing a bottle of wine and when did I start dinking alone?
--- did I lose you to your two mistresses named ‘television’ and ‘newspaper’?
--- did you stop washing my car and start forgetting to help bring the groceries in?
--- did I stop asking your opinion for fear of being mocked or the answer being “No”?
--- did you stop stealing a peek at my cleavage and prefer me to cover up?
--- did shaving and showering become an optional extra?
--- did cleaning your teeth become foreplay?
Why---
--- do I receive more compliments from strangers than I ever receive from you?
--- has buying clothes gone from a well deserved treat to an unnecessary expense?
--- does our money never feel as if it is mine?
--- does the sound of your car in the driveway no longer make me smile?
--- do I resent ironing your shirts, scrubbing your shower and preparing your dinner?
--- have I gone from being your wife and lover to being your maid and mother?
--- have I suddenly noticed that the plumber is an attractive man?
--- do you not see that you leave me wide open to emotional infiltration?
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