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Raymon Benedyk concludes his comparisons of the changes which have occurred during his lifetime.
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Raymon Benedyk concludes his comparisons of the changes which have occurred during his lifetime.
Raymon Benedyk recalls seeing the German airship Hindenberg flying over London.
...And what about the daily milk deliveries in glass bottles that sported two or three inches of real cream at the top, all covered by an easily removable cardboard disc, as well as the daily bread and cake deliveries all arriving in horse-drawn carts....
Raymon Benedyk recalls the days of seventy, and more, years ago.
Raymon Benedyk compares life today to that which he experienced while growing up in the 1920s and early 1930s.
Raymon Benedyk, having worked in America, returns to England where he meets the girl of his dreams.
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of finding a job two days after arriving in New York.
“On VE Day May 8th 1945 (Victory in Europe Day), I was fortunate enough to be on leave in London and found myself in amongst the thousands and thousands of revellers in Trafalgar Square when King George Sixth and Queen Elizabeth came through in an open carriage waving to the masses assembled. Later that day I was outside Buckingham Palace when the King and Queen, accompanied by their daughters Princess Elizabeth and Margaret and Winston Churchill, came out on the famous viewing balcony to wave to everyone. We sung ourselves hoarse with renderings of Land of Hope and Glory, There’ll always be and England and the National Anthem. It was a wonderfully joyous never to be forgotten occasion.’’ recalls Raymon Benedyk.
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of being called up in wartime to work in coal mines.
...Towards the end of our stay, father got a car with an engine that used coal gas instead of petrol, and had a huge coal-burning boiler on the back of the car, which provided fuel for the engine...
Raymon Benedyk tells of wartimne make-do-and-mend.
...But suddenly there was an ear-splitting screaming rush of noise right overhead and panic set in. I dived for cover alongside a nearby garden wall but, in the flash of the exploding bomb, I saw my father running towards where a few moments later we found it had landed, destroying a row of houses. At first there was an eerie silence, soon to be followed by the screams of injured people....
Raymon Benedyk continues his autobiography, recalling the grimness of life in wartime Britain.
...The following morning my father and I were with Sarah and Lou when the Prime Minister of the day, Neville Chamberlain, announced over the radio at 11.00 am that, “because the Germans had not withdrawn their troops from Poland, England must consider itself at war with Germany.”
My father and I immediately left for home and, on the way, the air raid warnings sounded...
Raymon Benedyk continues his life story.
...One night I was making my way to the rear entrance of our home through an unlit area with another friend when, out of the dark, a voice said “Stick ‘em up!” Without hesitation I hit out at the voice and my fist hit a face, apparently causing pain and doing considerable damage, since the voice ran away screaming...
Raymon Benedyk continues his life story.
...In 1934, my father bought his first car, a Jowett with a two-stroke engine that probably sounded like a present day lawn mower and almost certainly could move not much faster...
Raymon Benedyk continues his entertaining reminiscences.
...On one fateful occasion when I was enjoying myself, knowing I was secure in the water, I happened to look up and see Mr Holtz in his allotted position alongside me in the water, but with his hands on his hips! I immediately panicked, stopped swimming and, of course, sank like a stone...
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of the incident that convinced him that he would never be able to swim.
...At home at the end of the day, the usual thing was to be asked, “and what did you learn at school today?” On one of the first occasions this question was put, I am reputed to have thought very carefully before answering, “C A T” then paused before concluding with “puss”. It was some time before I understood the reason for the laughter of my parents...
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of being considered a teacher's pet.
...On Friday evenings my mother would light the Sabbath candles on the table. But on one such evening, the net curtains on the windows over the candles caught fire and, upon my screaming, mother came running into the kitchen, bravely pulled the curtains down, and extinguished the flames. We never had candles on Friday nights after that, certainly not lit ones anyway!...
Raymon Benedyk continues his autobiography.
...I also must have been quite knowledgeable about some of the facts of life, since I clearly recall standing at the door of my father’s little shop assuming to myself that every stout lady who passed by had a baby in her tummy, and that any particularly rotund ladies had two in there! I don’t recall concerning myself with knowing how they got there though!...
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his autobiographical writing, recalls the houses in which he lived.
Raymon Benedyk, summarising his recent life, tells of lonely days.
Raymon Benedyk continues his autobiography, telling of some of the hardest days in his life.
...During her final days in hospital, as she became weaker, she was barely able to speak and was living on pain-killing drugs. Almost her last words to me were "I want to go home"....
Raymon Benedyk gives a moving account of the loss of his beloved wife, the end of a 50-tear marriage.
...It was about this time that Elsa, on returning home one evening after an evening meeting which had not required my attendance, was accosted outside our house having her handbag removed by a man who then escaped in a waiting car...
Here is another episode in Raymon Benedyks' life story.
Raymon Benedyk writes of the loss of a beloved son and a family friend.
...The final wedding with which I was involved was the one that Charles Prince of Wales had been invited to, and was scheduled to be one of the official signatories of the marriage certificate as a witness. It all went magnificently and, as required, at the appropriate time I went to him and asked him to follow me to where the signings were to take place. It was when he was about to use his own pen when signing that I stopped him from doing so, asking him to use my pen. "Why?" he asked. I replied "Because my pen has ink in it that won't fade"...
So which pen was used?
Raymon Benedyk continues his life story.
...Joe Foreman when, after 50 years of his extremely loyal and dedicated work, he had been given a cheque for £100 at his retirement. "Not bad" he had said to me afterwards, "£2 per year!"
When I later saw the same suitcase as mine in a nearby shop window for £64, I realised that I had done better than him at £64 after 20 years...
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his autobiography, tells of his retirement gift from synagogue members.
...all was well, apart from one or two incidents with local non-Jews who objected to what they considered the 'heathen use of their church'. One such lady came in on several occasions, making herself unpleasant to our receptionist, and eventually it became necessary to try to pacify the lady. I introduced myself and explained our temporary use of the premises in as pleasant and polite a manner as I could muster. She was not at all pleased to learn that the Bishop of London had loaned the church building to us and, in fact, appeared to be further angered by it by calling us Christ killers!...
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of a dramatic day.
...my mother, aged 85, died in 1987 after a slow and gradual decline from being a bright and vivacious woman, able to host many a pleasant and happy social occasion and tell a good joke or two - in fact she kept a little black book containing the key words of many of the best - into, towards her end, a timid and frightened little old lady, always scared that she was going to be abandoned by me in some dark alleyway when I was taking her home to her sheltered flat accommodation, after an evening spent in our company, as well as generally suspecting everyone of having ulterior motives as to her safety...
Raymon Benedyk continues his life story.
....My social life was carrying on in much the same manner too, besides which I found myself becoming more and more heavily committed to work within my B'nai B'rith lodge, serving on several of its committees and accompanying Elsa around the country as she worked with the movement at national level. In 1984, we went to America to represent the United Kingdom at the B'nai B'rith International Convention in Washington DC, and had the awesome distinction of being present when the then American President, Ronald Reagan, addressed the meeting...
Raymon Benedyk continues his autobiography.
Raymond Benedyk, continuing his autobiography, tells of a death in the family.
...On another cruise, this time around the Greek Islands, we found ourselves to be fellow passengers with the then Archbishop of Canterbury with his personal envoy, Terry Waite...
Raymon Benedyk continues his life story.
...In 1984, Elsa really made a name for herself when one of the ladies at the school she personally managed, recently married and now pregnant, complained of feeling ill. Elsa agreed for her to go home asking that another girl take her to the bus stop. After a few moments the girl came hurrying back calling to Elsa for help. Elsa ran to where the other girl was lying on the pavement and found her to be in the first stages of giving birth! Elsa at once took charge by ordering all the men in the crowd of onlookers to go away...
Raymon Benedyk continues his life story.
Raymon Benedyk becomes a synagogue secretary, entering into a "full and exciting life''.
...Shortly after, the ousted management opened another even more exclusive casino, and I was invited to join them as Chief Cashier, a very important role in any establishment and, for the next few months I filled this exalted position with aplomb....
But Raymon Benedyk was soon to realise that casino work was not for him.
...I immediately sought another cashier job and was fortunate enough to be taken on by one of the most prestigious establishments in London, frequented by royalty from abroad, Lords and Ladies from the 'establishment', judges and lawyers of distinction, eminent doctors, politicians, financiers and bankers, big English and American stars of the screen, stage and TV and some really seriously wealthy people. I shall always remember with awe the night one such person came in and played Black Jack on a table by himself for £1000 per box. Since each table had eight boxes, he was playing £8000 a hand...
Raymon Benedyk continues his engaging life story.
...all was well, apart from one or two incidents with local non-Jews who objected to what they considered the 'heathen use of their church'. One such lady came in on several occasions, making herself unpleasant to our receptionist, and eventually it became necessary to try to pacify the lady. I introduced myself and explained our temporary use of the premises in as pleasant and polite a manner as I could muster. She was not at all pleased to learn that the Bishop of London had loaned the church building to us and, in fact, appeared to be further angered by it by calling us Christ killers!...
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of a dramatic day.
Raymon Benedyk played an active part for 29 years in a B'nai B'rith lodge.
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...Some very well known personalities gambled disgracefully, spending and losing their money uncontrollably, almost in tears when the Credit Controller refused to allow them any more credit. Others were overly lavish and extravagant when tipping the staff and some, perhaps wisely, just stood around with their friends watching others make fools of themselves in various ways...
Raymon Benedyk sees stars of film and tv and famous sportsmen while working in a casino
...One evening a young man came in during an extremely busy session and managed to grab a tray of diamond engagement rings that had been taken from the window for display purposes. I took off after him and managed to reach him just as he was getting into a get-away car...
Raymon Benedyk takes on another job and finds himself caught up in a drama.
...Elsa and I were scheduled to arrange the Barmitzvah of our older boy Stephen in May 1966 and we did not have two pennies to rub together towards the cost...
Raymon Benedyk, in dire need of cash, becomes an encyclopaedia salesman.
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...To make my money go that bit further, I learned to repair my own shoes, cut my own hair and I walked that bit further to the next tube station to save a penny or two on the fare...
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his engaging autobiography, tells of austere times.
....One of my fellow salesmen was an Australian boy, in England travelling the world as I had done when going to America a few years earlier, and I took him under my wing so to speak. He had never seen or experienced snow before and, when there was a fall of it that winter, he was fascinated by it, playing like a child with it outside the store in Regent Street....
Raymon Benedyk becomes a salesman in the jewellery department of Liberty's store in London.
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...my fun in the water was to paddle and, on this occasion, to relax on our inflated lilo floating on the water. Without realising it I floated out of my depth and, only after screaming for help at the top of my voice, was rescued by an Italian swimmer who kept saying "Calma, calma" at me as he pushed the lilo ashore...
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...The first thing we could not help but notice was that we were in a room with two single beds. We at once amended that situation by pushing them together but found that when we were close in the centre of our bed, they slowly slid apart again on the marble floor under the weight of our combined bodies, depositing us on the floor. We were able to laugh our heads off about that and soon made do with only one bed. We were so happy...
Raymon Benedyk tells of a heavenly honeymoon in Italy.
Raymon Benedyk returns from America on the Queen Mary, meerts the forgeous Elsa, and soon becomes engaged.
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Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of a bus tour round the USA.
...One day Lillian came to the shop, a very charming and attractive woman of perhaps 35 or so, who bought a couple of trinkets. Somehow, I don't know why now, I found myself escorting her home and, on the way, well she got to know me quite well on a park bench...
Raymon Benedyk recalls early romantic encounters.
Raymon Benedyk, continuing his life story, tells of the great blizzard in New York in 1947.
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...Next day, Tuesday, I attended a job interview at a downtown department store - the prestigious Saks 34th Street no less - and on Wednesday morning at 9.00 am, in fact less than 48 hours after I had disembarked from the ship, I had a job working in the stock room...
Raymon Benedyk was not long in finding work when he arrived in New York.
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...The food too was an eye opener. We were served wonderful delicacies that we hadn't seen for six years from heated containers cafeteria style by smiling sailors giving us as much as we wanted. No rationing here! And the bread, white as snow, tasting like cake. In fact we thought it was cake until we were told otherwise!...
There were surprises aplenty for Raymon Benedyk when he sailed off to a new life in the United States in 1947.
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In this section of Raymon Benedyk's entertaining life story, which here spans the years 1946 to 1956, he says his farewells to family and friends and sails off to New York.
...When I had my first serious encounter with the opposite sex at my first all-night party, which nowadays I would suspect as being so basic, I did not realise what was required of me until, in the dark, the girl placed my hands firmly on her breasts where she undoubtedly wanted them to rest, indicating to me in no uncertain terms what she wanted me to do with them...
Raymon Benedyk, back in civilian life after enforced employment in a coal mine, continues to learn the lessons of life.
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Raymon Benedyk was drafted into the coal mines in 1944, becoming a Bevin Boy.
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London is now under attack from flying bombs and rockets.
Raymon Benedyk continues his fascinating life story.
...I also joined the Air Training Corps, a cadet organisation where we learned all things aeronautical, navigation, aircraft recognition, telegraphic Morse code, marching etc. I was even able to experience my first flight, although I was petrified at the time, since it was in an old-fashioned 'Tiger Moth' aircraft with open cockpits. When the pilot did a 'loop the loop', I was almost scared out of my wits!...
Raymon Benedyk continues his autobiography.
...Then, in September 1940, London began to be bombed each night from dusk to dawn. It started on a Sunday and for the first four nights there was absolutely no retaliation. But on the Thursday night, a tremendous barrage of anti-aircraft fire erupted and the cheers of Londoners could be heard everywhere...
Raymon Benedyk continues his engaging autobiography.
...I was on holiday with my mother at the seaside in Cliftonville, near Margate in Kent, and on Saturday September 2nd my father arrived to take us home. By that time the Germans had already marched into Poland and, as we drove home, my father had me read aloud from the newspapers all the reports about the German advance because, although I did not realise it at the time, the towns being mentioned as being bombed by German aircraft and accounts of their military advances were where he had come from, and he was concerned about his mother and family who were caught up in it all...
Raymon Benedyk continues his vividly-told life story.
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...I was a good wicket keeper and in winter I was wanted because I was a good goalie. I got a medal for this sport activity...
Raymon Benedyk recalls his days at a private Catholic school.
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...I wasn't really interested in the beach or the water, and I was soon off on my own again, helping the local milkman with his deliveries, helping the local railwayman who looked after the signal box and the level crossing gates, and generally exploring the local byways on the bicycle I had at my disposal...
Raymon Benedyk, recalling his teenage years, tells a trip to the French Riviera.
...As I approached my tenth birthday, I grew up little by little with no real friends, continuing to do things on my own, during the holidays visiting relatives in other parts of London to whom I travelled on public transport quite happily and confidently by myself, father collecting me by car at the end of the day,,,
Raymond Benedyk continues his engaging life story.
...I have a class photo taken about Christmas 1931, when I deliberately engineered that I would be sitting next to the prettiest girl in the class for it...
With an engaging candour, Raymon Benedyk continues his account of his early schooldays.
...However my mother, being concerned at the aches and pains I complained of, called in her doctor to check me over. Now this was Dr Billig, a well-known and much revered lady doctor of that part of London who had apparently been in at my birth. She wanted to examine me, but I wasn't having any of that screaming "Man for man and woman for woman!" It seems that Dr Billig was horrified, wanting to know what my mother had been telling me at four years of age!...
Raymon Benedyk continues his highly entertaining autobiography.
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...on one occasion, as I was passing the church with its mysterious gravestones dotted around in the grass that surrounded it, I saw a cloaked figure moving through them. I ran all the way home screaming that I had seen a ghost and never went to visit Stanley again, although he continued to come to my house...
Raymond Benedyk brings vivid memories of his early childhood.
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...I must have been quite knowledgeable about aspects of the facts of life at three years of age, since I well remember standing at the door of our shop thinking to myself that every fat woman who came by had a baby in her tummy, and any particularly stout ones had two in there. I don't recall querying how they got there though!...
Raymond Benedyk continuing his vividly told life story, remembers days when he was three years old.
...my mother did say that she had had a hard time bringing me into the world at home at 16 Watney Street, which was a well-known market area in the East End of London taking, she said, "some sixty hours of hard labour to produce me" on July 5th 1926, and that upon my arrival "they threw me to the bottom of the bed and worked on her"...
Raymon Benedyk tells of his early days.
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...She was always very determined to improve herself in every way even, for example in her youth, to the extent of placing a clothes peg on her nose for hours at a time to try to make it grow thin and straight rather than bulbous...
Raymon Benedyk, in the prologue to his autobiography, continues his introductions to the members of his extensive family.
Raymon Benedyk, continuing the prologue to his autobiography, tells how his much travelled father finally arrived in England.
Raymond Benedyk, as a prelude to his fascinating life story, gives a detailed account of his famioy tree.
Raymon Benedyk traces his family roots back to the 'shtetl' of Topola near the city of Lodz in Poland.
...The Benedyk name as such, or similar, was probably given to the family by the lord of the land of their home in Silesia, in present day northern Slovakia, where they are said to have been the only Jews permitted to live from the 16th century as 'money providers' to the landowner...
Raymon Benedyk begins his autobiography by delving into his family's history.
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